Life is complicated with all its variables, variety and variances. It becomes even more so in matters of relationships.
In numerous cases, we come across broken hearts not because the intention was such but because one of them failed to give a commitment at the right time.
In one such case, they know each other for many years. It was an unspoken understanding that they shall eventually settle down with each other. The boy goes on to make a living overseas so that he eventually returns with sufficient capital. The girl now alone is missing the boy, lonely in the hours that were spent together. To fill the vacuum she plunges into various activities. To top it, they are in different time zones making it even more difficult to communicate. Now they are not only in different time zones but also different personal zones. They become a victim of what they call love distance relationship.
Life moves on. A couple of years later boy returns but finds the girl immersed in her own activity. She has no time for him and he finds himself alone and decides to move on. The mind takes over leaving a sad heart behind, finds a life partner, leaving a grieving girl behind.
Look at what has happened. The boy moves ahead not joyfully but a matter of fact. The girl grieves and decides this is her fate. They could have been together and yet are not. What went wrong? To our minds, one clear communication was lacking. The relationship was taken for granted without making it work towards a common goal.
The girl shied away from giving a commitment at the right time, because of which that which could have been did not happen.
We as relationship counselors know that the two things that went wrong here were:-
- Lack of Communication
- Lack of commitment
Our suggestion to all those who find this scenario familiar please commit and please communicate. This could make or break the relationship.
