You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist

How often has it happened, that you have given yourself to something even when you did not believe in it wholesomely? How many times has it been that you have started something with sheer resistance and unwillingness? I am sure there must be many such incidents. And if there are, you must have a fair idea of how badly they end up.

“You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist”. This powerful quote echoes unaddressed fear. Fear that persists against our will. While this great phrase might have a number of meanings, what we imply from it is that you can never do full justice to something unless you are involved in it with all your heart. Like a handshake is not possible with a clenched fist, no great deed or relation is possible without the will for it.

Let us understand the depth of this with few crucial aspects of our lives: 

1. Goals: Many times you are forced to adopt a career path that doesn't match your skillset. Despite this, you take a journey on it. How can the journey be a successful one when the destination chosen itself is wrong. If you want to have a successful career or venture, you have to dive into it completely. Starting from your vision to your actions, everything needs to revolve around it and not anything else. Only then can the result be desirable. 
2. Relationships: May it be a relationship with your parents, wife, or friend, it cannot prosper until you choose to take efforts dedicatedly. If there are any underlying issues or hesitations that are not dealt with at the right time, you might never have a healthy relationship. 
3. Expectations: Most of us have the constant need to please people around us and thus find ourselves juggling between what is the right thing to do. To add to this, nothing that they do is with regard to what they like. As the people’s perspective isn't always in direct variation to one’s actions, the person shall never find peace with what they do. 

For one’s goals to get accomplished, relationships to be fulfilling, or career to shape as expected, one must address all the fears and insecurities underlying it.  Any work that is done wholeheartedly, will always come out as the best because it is given the best. If one wishes to obtain desirable results, the work done should be as per desire first. Because as you cannot shake hands with a clenched fist, you also cannot pull off anything as desired with unwillingness.